One benefit to growing up Baptist is that you get to hear years of sermon anecdotes. One of my favorites growing up was a joke I heard several preachers use when talking about marriage. It went something like this:
A woman went to her pastor to complain about her husband. “I just don’t think he loves me any more,” she sobbed, “He’s so aloof, never affectionate, and never says he loves me. Do you think the marriage is over?” The pastor went to the woman’s house and found her husband sitting there in his armchair watching TV. “Your wife is worried about you,” the pastor told him, “She feels like you don’t love her anymore.” The husband responded grudgingly, “I told her I loved her when we got married. If anything changes, I’ll let her know.”
The moral of the story, of course, is that it isn’t enough for a husband to simply know he loves his wife or to say the words once and be done with it. Instead, this love has to be lived and the marriage vows put into practice on a daily basis. I think most reasonable men know this. I know this. But…I forget? I’m busy? Something happens. I mean, I tell my wife I love her. I know she feels loved. She tells me I do a good job of making her feel loved. But I also know I miss plenty of opportunities to do nice things for her. There is stuff I know she likes and I ought to do but it just slip my mind somehow.
So I was instantly interested when Haley’s friend Leah Heffner asked if I would review her ebook, 365 Ways to Love Your Wife When Your Kids Are Young. The title of the book is straight forward enough and the content is what you would expect: a list of 365 ways to love your wife. I’ll admit that I skipped the introduction and jumped right into the list. The ideas range from the quick and easy (Help her put on her coat) to the more involved and time-consuming (Spend quality time with each of your kids individually doing something they love). The scope of the book is impressive. I mean, 365 is a lot! Of course, with any such list, not everything will apply to everyone. I often found myself thinking, “That isn’t Haley.” But I think that’s part of the point, for the husband to start considering his wife, her personality, her preferences. I’ve decided to keep the book sitting on my desktop, not so I can open it at the end of the day for a quick tip, but so that I’ll keep my wife in mind during the day and go out of my way to show her I love her.
If you’d like a copy of Leah’s book, you can win one by commenting on a post and/or liking my Facebook page. And be sure to drop by Leah’s blog and say Hi. Here’s the Rafflecopter thing. Let me know if it isn’t working for you